Straight answer: Despite other's opinions being none of my business, the successful survival of the human species depended on tribal approval. As a result, billions of years of approval seeking cells live in our forms. Concern for the approval of others was a survival tactic that has now outgrown its usefulness. To move beyond this habit, recognize that behavior is situational.
Longer answer: Thought I had this licked. I was wrong. During a recent conversation, I had offered irrelevant information. In turn, the other person one-upped me by offering a dubious solution. Take note: when I am indiscriminate (and I was by offering irrelevant information), my behavior gives permission for anyone to act in kind. The other person quickly backtracked their statement, but I was empathetic. This was clearly not their fault. They were simply following the lead - my lead.
I ask for my generosity in allowing me this fallibility, knowing I am learning every day to listen, to heighten my awareness and to think and behave with integrity; so that my behaviors match my intentions. To no one's surprise, especially my own, I find myself falling short despite the constant effort. Until my intentions match what I give and what I receive and my thoughts and words match my deeds, I suspect the practice sessions will continue.
